Summary of LIFT Theory
Efficacious child psychotherapy must address health through purposeful integration of all human holistic parts (biological, sociological, psychological, and spiritual), particularly during conflicts and mistakes, with this outcome: “I’m understood and valued” (lovable, good). Effective integration is dependent upon three key skills: 1) acquisition of lovability, a child’s core identity, through specialized parenting skills, 2) mitigation of fear to its core “safety alert only” utility, significantly reducing unnecessary, damaging stress responses, and 3) application of actionable Pure Love skills. These skills must be easily understood and acquired, in-depth, in a short period (eight or fewer sessions), and with permanent, desired results. Love Infusing Fear - Therapy (LIFT) theory and treatment successfully adheres to these requirements, attested through 45 counseling years with 4,000+ clients.
Four key problems limit current and past therapy theory and practice: 1) insufficient inclusion of current, groundbreaking Affective Neurology emotion research, revealing fear, anger, sadness, and happiness as a human’s basic, embodied, first response to stimuli, 2) absence of actionable love skills derived from the spiritual tradition’s primary tenet, Love (evidence-based terms: compassion and empathy), 3) insufficient intervention and acknowledgement of unattended Fear’s primal, mostly unconscious, homeostasis disruption of human holistic parts (biological, sociological, psychological, and spiritual), and 4) unacknowledged Lovability identity as a human’s primal, potential identity, without any comprehensive parenting skills training program for Lovability identity acquisition.
LIFT’s distinguishable theory and practice address these four problems: 1) Easy application of Affective Neurology research, 2) easily learned and practiced actionable love skills (measurable and observable) and processes, 3) mitigating Fear to its “safety alert only” function (both physical and psychological) through infusion of actionable love skills, and 4) easily learned parenting identity (lovability) formation skills leading to a child’s Lovability identity acquisition: first, healthy self-love, followed by ability to attract love, and finally, selfless love of others. LIFT’s seminal, actionable love skill is emotion validation applied as the first responder to every conflict, followed by behavior change intervention. Traditional parenting programs focus only on behavior, frequently resulting in “I’m bad” and separateness. LIFT’s emotion focus replaces these results with “I’m okay” and “I am one with my parents.” Oneness is the ultimate, learned Love experience, the primary root of acquired lovability identity.
LIFT results: Parenting is satisfying, and children acquire deep-seated, sustained contentment along with enduring warm outside relationships, particularly with siblings. All fully-involved participants report a permanent, life-changing experience.
Love Infusing Fear - Therapy (LIFT): Four Key Distinguishable Points
1. Four basic emotions occur before or concurrently with cognition (thought) activation.
2. Fear and Love, a human’s two primary emotions, are optimized by LIFT.
3. LIFT quantifies Love (good and Oneness) as a human’s primary energy, informative, integrative, and regulatory source.
4. LIFT results in unprecedented parent satisfaction and lovability identity acquisition by children.
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